Defining just exactly makes someone a best friend can be rather elusive. But here’s a stab at it from my end.
- That is, someone I can deeply respect and trust. Included would be honesty, confidentiality – a gossip, never, and kindness.
- Gentle sense of humor or playfulness.
- Mutual interests. There doesn’t have to be a complete overlap, but having activities and causes we undertake together is vital. For me, it’s typically Quaker Meeting or the music we sing together in a choir. Oh, yes, and I can’t overlook reading itself.
- Curiosity – and a delight in learning. A desire to understand the world around us also opens my eyes to so much I’d otherwise not know.
- Shared friendships and community. If they reject you – or you find them annoying – there’s trouble.
- Equal give-and-take over the long haul. Yes, there will be rough stretches where I’ll need to be quite supportive and other times when I’ll be the needy one, but it can’t always be one-sided.
- Appropriate tone. I have difficulty being around a loud individual. I prefer a good listener, someone who can also be comfortable with silence.
- Generosity and caring. Just look how they treat others for a clue.
- Good taste. That is, a touch of class and style – nothing vulgar.
- Not too picky. They’re dealing with me, after all.
What qualities would you add to your list? Which ones would you delete?
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