This was one of the big items that used to appear in the personals ads. The lady wanted a gentleman who was “financially secure.” But what did that mean in practice?
For some, I suppose, it was a seven-figure portfolio … or better.
For others, maybe someone who held a steady job or was supporting himself? Or maybe could simply pay his half of the rent?
Of course, it was ultimately a personal perspective.
So how would you have defined it?
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If you’re bold enough to put “financially secure” in a personal ad then I think the person is searching for more of a seven-figure portfolio kinda person. Just my opinion and maybe I have just lost faith in humanity. 🙂
It was a common item, though. Besides, there are only so many millionaires to go around.
Mooches, on the other hand …
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that is a very good question.
i need to start by taking away the word ‘financially’.
secure… is what we need,
no matter how much money someone may have, they may still not be ‘secure’,
one may not be financially loaded but if they are secure in themselves,
they are well able to navigate the financial part of the security!
I think.
? 🙂
Yes, that’s the healthy direction, to my thinking.
Still, there is also the place for mutuality, where both partners in a relationship can bear their share of the finances or some equivalent. And that’s quite different from looking for the millionaire and the presumed glitter that goes with it.
exactly,
i saw a post on FB, a ‘billionaire’ responding to this sort of attitude, basically saying…
‘do you really think us billionaires are that shallow?’!
and I agree, relationships require balance
My perspective on it would be that I want a man who is able to support himself and who can, as you say, mutually support the relationship when it gets to that point financially. I am not sure I could be happy with a millionaire. I think the money would be like the 800 lb gorilla in the room all the time. They would wonder do I love them for the money and I would wonder when the young, tall blonde replacement would come walking in the room.
You see right through the “marry a millionaire” hype. Anyone who goes that route is allowing herself (or, at times, himself) to be bought, with little to counterbalance the power in the relationship.