Tag: Musings

As we get into traditional weddings season

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Celebrities get the headlines, of course. What makes them so special?

“Hollywood marriages are two constructed images colliding,” said bandleader Artie Shaw, reflecting on his ex-wives. He married eight times, in addition to 11 serious girlfriends. So much for expertise.

Let’s turn to ten others.

  1. “Experts on romance say for a happy marriage there has to be more than a passionate love. For a lasting union, they insist, there must be a genuine liking for each other. Which, in my book, is a good definition for friendship.” ― Marilyn Monroe
  2. “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably, they are both disappointed.” ― Albert Einstein
  3. “A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that doesn’t mean she can’t have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones.” ― Cher
  4. “I am a very committed wife. And I should be committed, too ― for being married so many times. ― Elizabeth Taylor
  5. “You would think that a rock star being married to a supermodel would be one of the greatest things in the world. It is.” ― David Bowie
  6. “Husbands and wives should have separate interests, cultivate different sets of friends and not impose on the other … You can’t spend a lifetime breathing down each other’s necks.” ― Paul Newman
  7. “You never really know a man until you divorce him.” ― Zsa Zsa Gabor
  8. “When you first get married, they open the car door for you. Eighteen years now … once he opened the car door for me in the last four years ― we were on the freeway at the time.” ― Joan Rivers
  9. “For marriage to be a success, every woman should have their own bathroom. The end.” ― Catherine Zeta-Jones
  10. “Huh, celebrity marriages. They never last, do they?” ― Donkey, in Shrek

 

More wisdom on the practice of writing

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Again, I’ll argue that this round of insights is applicable to much more than serious writing.

  1. “I would write a book, or a short story, at least three times ― once to understand it, the second time to improve the prose, and a third to compel it to say what it still must say. Somewhere I put it this way: first drafts are for learning what one’s fiction wants him to say. Revision works with that knowledge to enlarge and enhance an idea, to reform it. Revision is one of the exquisite pleasures of writing.” ― Bernard Malamud
  2. “My own experience is that once a story has been written, one has to cross out the beginning and the end. It is there that we authors do most of our lying.” ― Anton Chekhov
  3. “There are three rules for writing a novel. Unfortunately, no one knows what they are.” ― Somerset Maugham
  4. “Not that the story need be long, but it will take a long while to make it short.” ― Henry David Thoreau
  5. “No author dislikes to be edited as much as he dislikes not to be published.” ― Russell Lynes
  6. “You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you.” ― Ray Bradbury
  7. “Exercise the writing muscle every day, even if it is only a letter, notes, a title list, a character sketch, a journal entry. Writers are like dancers, like athletes. Without that exercise, the muscles seize up.” ― Jane Yolen
  8. “Find your best time of the day for writing and write. Don’t let anything else interfere. Afterwards it won’t matter to you that the kitchen is a mess.” ― Esther Freud
  9. “I go out to my little office, where I’ve got a manuscript, and the last page I was happy with is on top. I read that, and it’s like getting on a taxiway. I’m able to go through and revise it and put myself ― click ― back into that world.” ― Stephen King
  10. “Substitute ‘damn’ every time you’re inclined to write ‘very;’ your editor will delete it and the writing will be just as it should be.” ― Mark Twain

 

Is this too harsh? Even on a bad day?

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A few asides on the small town where I was dwelling.

John Quinn, who grew up in Fostoria: “Small, flat, uninteresting. Platt-Deutsch. Smelly. Thick-skulled Catholic diluted with third-removed Yankee.”

B.L. Reid: “An ethnic polyglot with many Germans and a sprinkling of Irish and one unusual strain, a tribe of Belgians. To the time of the First World War, three out of four sermons a month in the Catholic church were preached in German. The Belgians were the glassworkers and conducted the local industry. A small opera house was visited by traveling musicians and players. Pretty public parks were much frequented by the Germans and Belgians, often observing their transplanted holidays in their native costumes. The Belgians formed a fine concert band and Belgian funerals, led by the band and followed by mourners on foot, were a familiar and impressive sight.”

Radio “newsman” Mel Murray, in his own voice, used my newspaper column as his “editorial” this morning on WFOB, two days after the concert I had reviewed. Obviously, he wasn’t there.

The people of this town gossip and bitch to each other but when it comes time to stand up, run away. They all want somebody else to stand up for their view, yet are afraid of anything different or new. They seem to be sleeping on their feet.

“Findlay’s only got nickel millionaires, but here, shit, these pishers may got money but they stick it up their ass.”

Nickel millionaires, sez the trashy town’s foot doctor.

[Findlay was headquarters of Marathan Oil and Cooper Tire & Rubber; Fostoria had none.]

~*~

The town sat at the nexus of four major railroads , the B&O, C&O, New York Central, and Nickel Plate lines. They were a constant presence. Photo by Nathaniel Railroad via Wikimedia Commons.

~*~

This piss-hole of a city! So much negativity, jealousy, and hatred it’s a struggle for anyone to remain alive long – negativity that could kill a horse

This place is still a swamp, not even an idea to look up to.

Everything’s got to be good or bad. Their minds can’t handle anything more. Their minds don’t work anywhere near as fast as their hatreds do.

They keep electing crooks just like themselves.

Reporter Tom, a West Virginian, observing how these Midwestern towns build statues of their founders and then live in the shadows: They think they’re friendly, chattering all day, cutting down each other, not a good word to say, a whole damned town of gossips, women and men …

As I saw it, the thing about this place is there’s nothing to look at, no lofty ambitions like a mountaintop, not even a holy man with a begging bowl.

There wasn’t even a river running through it or a lovely lake or pond to ponder. Just the railroad tracks and truck traffic.

 

As seen from my second-floor apartment window on Main Street back in Fostoria

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  1. Municipal parking lot: park all day, 25 cents.
  2. Cadillac/Oldsmobile used car lot.
  3. Brick Mansard house turned into offices.
  4. Footlighters Playhouse in the old Methodist church.
  5. Three boarding houses.
  6. Tri-County Glass.
  7. Back of the roller rink.
  8. Ray coming to work at 5:30 a.m. at Dell’s Restaurant.
  9. Fruths’ Hardware, Penney’s with Emergency Corps bingo games upstairs, Firestone office (repairs around the corner), the old Sohio gas station turned into a second-day bakery outlet.
  10. Police cars, firetrucks, trees, assorted traffic.

Plus the sign for St. Vincent’s below me

~*~

The corner restaurant in more recent times. 

Prime signoffs

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Formal letters may be an endangered species, say apart from legal actions, but you may still find a need for a snappy closing line for other written transactions.

Here are a few of note.

  1. Cheerio, luff, and all that. Alternatively,” Luv ya,” or, “Love & hugs.”
  2. Cheers or beers.
  3. Whoops!
  4. Too’s yours. (Knockoff on “toujours.”)
  5. Tally-ho. Also, “Tally-ho-ho-hon.”
  6. Warm fuzzies.
  7. Taa-taa. Also, “Too-da-loo” or “Tou-da-lahjh.”
  8. Keep sizzlin’. Or, “Keep smilin’.”
  9. Hippity-hop.
  10. Tootles.

“Laters!” got misappropriated.

 

Forget ‘sincerely’

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Letter writing may be a dead art, thanks to email, texting, and online job application forms, among the changing means of communication, but one of the challenges of on-paper correspondence had been in selecting an appropriate closing line, which went right above your signature. (Few youths today, I’m told, actually have signatures. Ahem.)

As one bit of advice noted, “sincerely” is for lawyers, better to be too warm than too distant.

Here are some alternatives, should the occasion arise.

  1. Thank you for your time. Alternatively, “Thanks for your time” or “Thanks again.”
  2. Good wishes, always. Or even, “Always,” or, “All the best, always.”
  3. Toujours.
  4. Enthusiastically.
  5. Only the best or betters.
  6. Stay well.
  7. Cheers!
  8. Thanx and g’day.
  9. Let’s go!
  10. Onward!

Gee, now I’m wondering about “Truly.” Or even, “Actually.”

 

Feed the fire

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And so I am, when finished transcribing a journal in my spiralbound series.

The title line was from another wide-margin volume in that series.

Was I journaling at the office, too? Or even awaiting the bus? That would explain the lengthy, detailed entries so close together by date. When dates were included.

~*~

Meditation, quiescence or Dhyana, not enough: the practice should be fierce!

As with fire.

Still, tension or anger

reduce to nothing!

Nothing tangible, that is. How divine!

 

Some of this applies to readers, too

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More advice and observations from novelists and other writers.

  1. “You just have to go on when it is worst and most helpless ― there is only one thing to do with a novel and that is go straight on through to the end of the damn thing.” ―  Ernest Hemingway
  2. “We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.” ― Kurt Vonnegut
  3. “The best advice on writing was given to me by my first editor, Michael Korda, of Simon and Schuster, while writing my first book. ‘Finish your first draft and then we’ll talk,’ he said. It took me a long time to realize how good the advice was. Even if you write it wrong, write and finish your first draft. Only then, when you have a flawed whole, do you know what you have to fix.” ― Dominick Dunne
  4. “Editing might be a bloody trade, but knives aren’t the exclusive property of butchers. Surgeons use them too.” ― Blake Morrison
  5. “Half my life is an act of revision.” ― John Irving
  6. “I’m all for the scissors. I believe more in the scissors than I do in the pencil.” ― Truman Capote
  7. “It is perfectly okay to write garbage ― as long as you edit brilliantly.” ― C. J. Cherryh
  8. “I’ve found the best way to revise your own work is to pretend that somebody else wrote it and then to rip the living shit out of it.” ― Don Roff
  9. “Only kings, presidents, editors, and people with tapeworms have the right to use the editorial ‘we’.” ― Mark Twain
  10. “So the writer who breeds more words than he needs, is making a chore for the reader who reads.” ― Dr. Seuss